At this time of year we are under so many pressures. Here's some of the ones that affect me: Family Friends Partners Parties Work Studies FOMO - fear of missing out !!! This post is a quick reminder that it is ok to rest, to say no, and to understand that the guilt you are feeling about doing these things may not be your own. It may be something that has developed from childhood, that you don't need to hold onto anymore to have a fulfilling life. Are you the type of person that feels obliged? If so, read on. When we are little, we are taught to feel empathy for others. We are learn to say sorry for hurting someone's feelings, to worry about others' problems, and to strive to succeed (sometimes for the pleasure of our loved ones as well as ourselves). Empathy in itself is a wonderful trait. It often means that we grow up to identify with others, to be great sources of care, and have oodles of intuition. However, the pressure that we feel from others can be a drain on ourselves if we don't listen to what we need to be filled up. Whatever theory you use (and there are many), remember that we cannot fulfil the wishes of others at the expense of ourselves. You are just as important as those around you, and deserve care, attention, and love. You are worthy of: sleep nutritional food water happiness, in whatever form it might take for you time out quiet You are entitled to spend your time on pursuits that fill you up, and to surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. Often we think that we don't have a choice about the people that we associate with, but we do. This is easier said than done, but the first step to changing the way your time is spent is to identify what are the things that zap our energy. It is ok to look at these things, and to put in place appropriate boundaries to safeguard our wellbeing. Have a look at these resources for more info:
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